Enhancing physical pleasure clearly increases sexual enjoyment. But how does using sex toys impact the satisfaction level that both partners excerpts from their relationship? Some top of the mark research into the probable and demographics of sex toy used to exert light on this question — and the results indicate that pleasure in bed and pleasure in a relationship may act sideways slightly for partners depending on their gender.
The main reason or the essential cause of using sex toys may or may not engage in extramarital affairs. The latter has some sophisticated causes as such the satisfaction level and emotional level of an individual.
Causes of Extramarital Affairs-:
- Early marriage
- Married for the wrong reasons
- Inability to deal with changes
- Becoming parents
- Physical dissatisfaction
- Emotional disconnect
- Disagreements on core values
- Differing life priorities
- No common interests
- Need for excitement
- Personal finances
During the last three decades, professionals have acknowledged that some people have uncontrolled sexual behavior. People with sexual drive are similar to compulsive gamblers, compulsive overeaters, or alcoholics in that they are not able to control their impulses, which lead to exempted results. Due to this, they are often referred to as sexual addicts. Depending on one’s professional grit. The word addiction or compulsions have been made to define the disorder. In the field of addiction science, one of the basic sign of addiction is compulsive use. Some professionals may make exceptions between addiction and compulsion; others may use them as vice-versa. There is, however, a continuous increase in the common understanding of the problem and its occurrence. Great progress is also being made in treatment. Advances in neurochemistry may soon redefine our terminology as we understand more clearly the biology of the disorder.
To know more about uncontrolled sexual behavior, read this Mayo Clinic article.
Sex toys and their ambiguous usage
Examination of the prevalence of vibrator use among heterosexual men in the U.S. Exceptionally, heterosexual men who had used sex toys with their partner reported lower levels of a sexual drive than men who had never used a sex toy with their partners. The researchers couldn’t say for sure why satisfaction was lower in this interchangeable scenario. But given that most heterosexual men who had used vibrators with a partner reported doing so to increase their partner’s pleasure (as opposed to their own) it’s possible that these men’s sexual satisfaction was unchanged by the introduction of a vibrator and may have already been lower, to begin with.
That said, it may also be the case that some heterosexual men who have used vibrators with their partners (either because their partner suggested they do so or because they naturally thought it could improve their partner’s enjoyment of sex) felt that having to usage a vibrator excerpts poorly on their own sexual ability. If this were the case it would make the belief that their sexual satisfaction remained low. (No one likes to feel they’re not good in bed). The belief that “using a sex toy means your partner isn’t a good enough lover is one of the most common misconceptions people have about sex toys,” says licensed marriage and family therapist, and resident relationship and sex expert at AdamandEve.com, Dr. Kat Van Kirk, Ph.D. “One partner may also fear that another partner’s use of a sex toy will replace them or that they’ll become overly reliant on them for arousal and/or orgasm.”
Whether sex toys act as exaggerating a relationship or leading to conflict likely depends on the viability of openness and communication between partners. As a 2013 report by the Guttmacher Institute demonstrates, the more adhered individuals in relationships rate their interactions with their partners, the higher they tend to rate their desire for one another as well as the satisfaction they derive from their relationship — inside and outside of the bedroom.
In the context of sex toys, positive communication means (ideally) that partners who feel threatened can open up about their concerns, feel heard and validated, and receive reassurance from their partners that a desire to use a sex toy is in no way a comment on their virility, desirability, or sexual ability. (In the same scenario, the partner who desires to use a sex toy should again, ideally be made to communicate that desire without being judged, shamed, or otherwise excerpted away from. Not surprisingly, Reece and his colleague Debra Herbenick, Ph.D., surmise in a 2010 paper on the use of vibrators within relationships, “it may be that being able to communicate openly and feel that one’s sexual interests and pleasures are accepted by one’s partner enhances satisfaction.”)
Van Kirk believes that incorporating toys can boost the relationship and sexual satisfaction of anyone open to and respectful of their own and their partners’ inclinations and boundaries. “If there is a sense of openness and non-judgment that can be cultivated most people can learn to incorporate new aspects into their repertoire versus being resistant. About the stoppage can be helpful in disrupting myths your partner has had about sex toy use. And some education always helps. For instance, the fact that most women do not orgasm through penile/vaginal alone should be enough to invest in a sex toy.”
Overall, 90 % (18 of 20) women described using sex toys either during masturbation or partnered sex (or both), while 10 % (2 women, both heterosexual identified) said that they had never used sex toys. This number is higher than earlier studies assessing women’s vibrator use. Because all women reported that they had masturbated at least once, and all had much to say about sex toys, all twenty women were included in this study. Although we did not ask about the frequency of sex toy use, all participants offered this information on their own. From these responses, six main themes were generated. As noted in the descriptions below, some participants’ responses overlapped between themes in that one woman’s interview often addressed more than one theme. The six themes included:
(1) Emphasis on non-penetrative use of phallic sex toys (8 out of 20);
(2) Embarrassment about disclosing sex toy usage to partner(s) (6 out of 20);
(3) Personifying vibrators and dildos (5 out of 20);
(4) Coercion and lack of power (4 out of 20);
(5) Embracing sex toys as campy, fun, and subversive (4 out of 20); and
(6) Resistance to sex toys as impersonal or artificial (5 out of 20).
Heterosexual women far more often described experiences that fit into the first four themes, while queer women (lesbian and bisexual women) far more often described experiences that fit into the latter two themes.
Emphasis on Non-Penetrative Use of Phallic Sex Toys
Whether as a mode of resistance to traditional scripts about how women should derive sexual pleasure or as an indicator of the imperfect design of sex toys, women overwhelmingly described non-penetrative uses for (mostly phallic) sex toys.
Embarrassment about Disclosing Sex Toy Usage to Partner(s)
Although women often derived pleasure from sex toys, they generally felt uncomfortable expressing these sentiments to others. As a second theme, heterosexual women felt particularly embarrassed about their sex toy usage, often constructing sex toys as a threat to their boyfriends’ or husbands’ sense of sexual prowess.
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Personifying Sex Toys
As a common theme, several women admitted that they anthropomorphized and personified their sex toys by naming them, referring to them as a ‘‘substitute’’ for a real person, or imagining a relationship with their (male) sex toys.
Coercion and Lack of Power in Using Sex Toys
Though only a few women described negative experiences with sex toys, these negative experiences often followed a similar coercive pattern. The worst cases generally happened when women said that their male partners either forced them to use sex toys to accommodate pornographic fantasies, or that sex toys symbolized their relative lack of power during sex.
Embracing Sex Toys as Campy, Fun, and Subversive
While heterosexual women more often relayed a tone of seriousness about power imbalances with sex toys, lesbian and bisexual women far more often described sex toys as a fun or campy, often with a subversive and playful twist.
Resistance to Sex Toys as Impersonal or Artificial As a final theme
Several women saw no positive or therapeutic aspects of sex toys and described them instead as too impersonal or artificial. Often as a conscious rebellion against technological and corporate means to women’s sexual pleasure, these women typically preferred to masturbate with their fingers and have partnered sex without accessories.
We can say that the usage of sex toys is totally different from the indulgent of an individual in extramarital affairs as the usage of sex toys depends on different factors such as demographics, culture, education, and social norms.
Whereas an extramarital affair is a totally different thing as the individual who is involved in in the affair has some different set of mind or the contemporary set of thinking, some do it for fun, some have a different set of thinking to secrete other hormones which evolve the personality of the people.
So, at last, we can deduce that sex toys cannot be an alternative for the prevention of extramarital affairs.